Saying Goodbye

Whoever said on Facebook that having a kid in college means saying goodbye over and over again had it right. And it’s not easy.

Our older daughter, Isabelle, left bright and early yesterday morning for Tulane University after spending four nights with us over Thanksgiving. And I can’t believe she’s gone already. The house feels empty without her, as if something huge and important is missing that should be replaced.

Didn’t we just go through this a few months ago? And we’ll go through it all over again in another month when Isabelle comes home for Christmas.

Somehow, though, I don’t think I’m ever going to adjust; in my mind my older daughter remains a permanent fixture on the couch with weird hours. I don’t even mind being woken up at 3 a.m. when she’s home. Or let’s just say that I adapt pretty well to her late hours.

But she’s not a permanent fixture so I better get used to this coming and going, especially over the holidays. Having a kid in college means saying goodbye a lot more than I’d like, particularly between November and January.

But then, we can’t keep them from growing up, can we?


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